What you Learn about a Partner when things go Wrong

Sometimes life does not go as planned. Every so often we all get flat tires, delayed by train strikes, leaks in the roof, and unexpected illnesses. There are thousands of things that can go wrong in our day to day lives and it’s only natural that sometimes they do just that- usually at the worst possible time.

As we grow up and become adults we learn to deal with the times when it all goes wrong. This is part of growing up and becoming independent. It’s one thing to cope on your own when life is proceeding according to plan and another thing entirely when it takes an unexpected turn for the worse, in whatever way. By the time we reach adulthood everyone has their own ways of dealing with minor crises and major catastrophes.

Not all those ways are equal. Consider the flat tire. Some people will sigh and get on with fixing it as best they can. Some will be more prepared than others, knowing that they have a spare in good working order and all the necessary tools. Some will call for roadside assistance to help them, even if it means waiting for hours. That could be because they don’t know how to change a tire or because they don’t like getting their hands dirty. Some people will lose their temper and have a good tantrum before doing anything.

You probably have a good idea what you’d do under the circumstances (even if you’re not willing to admit it out loud). What you might not know is how your new partner would react. Stress rubs us raw and brings out what’s underneath- frustration, insecurity, unhappiness or just maybe, reserves of patience and strength.

There is no way of knowing how someone will react when things go wrong, until they go wrong. Now I’m not saying you should look for an opportunity to cause some chaos or welcome it when it arrives of its own accord- as it certainly will sooner or later- but seeing a potential long term partner reacting to difficult circumstances gives you information about who they are and where their strengths and weaknesses lie. After the rough patch is over have a think about how both of you reacted. Did you work together to solve the problem? Was he or she supportive, and could you be supportive back? Did he or she stay calm under pressure and keep their temper in check?

If the answer to all those questions is a ‘yes’, you might have a keeper. If they had a yelling, screaming tantrum over something you consider small and fixable like a flat tire, bear in mind that may be their coping strategy for more significant problems too. If you felt you couldn’t cope with a major disaster and they were there for you, that’s a huge plus. If they weren’t emotionally available when you needed them to be this time, the chances are that they won’t be in the future.

We can learn a lot when things go wrong, about how to cope better next time and what’s really important in life, but also about the people we’re with when it all goes pear shaped. Staying calm in a crisis is an incredibly valuable characteristic in a partner. If you can work through day to day problems together you’ll have a much better chance of standing up to the big stuff hand in hand.

About the Author : Jess Spate works as a sustainable business consultant for a number of companies making and selling everything from garden fountains to down jackets. She lives in Cardiff, UK, and writes non-fiction in her spare time.

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Romancing a Loved one with Custom Jewelry

Jewelery is inextricably linked with romance. As a gift, jewels have always meant something special and personal. Giving someone a beautiful thing is about as romantic as you can get. Special rings and custom made jewelery are also important gifts, meaning the relationship has moved to another level. With modern technology and a new generation of jewelers, romance has also taken on a new lease of life in customized jewels, and some are pretty spectacular. 

Jewels, Meanings and Romance

Custom jewelery is ideal for the truly special gift. A custom design can refer to an event or shared experience, something that only the giver and recipient understand. The custom jewelery commemorates that secret moment or deep shared personal event. This is really a lovers code, incomprehensible to others, which makes it even more fun.For a really romantic gift, there are almost no limits. The most beautiful graphic designs can be turned into jewelery with the help of a skilled jeweler. 

Custom made Jewelery, Basics

Custom made jewelry is jewelry made to your specifications. It’s also a good excuse for jewelers, who are trained in design as part of their fundamental skills, to show what they can do. This is how custom jewelry is made:

Custom made jewelery is based on a special design concept.

You meet with the jeweler, and explain your idea. (Bring a visual design, if you have one, to help explain what you want. The more specific you are, the better, and the jeweler will be able to reproduce your design more efficiently.)

The jeweler costs the materials and labor, and gives you a quote and time frame. (Note: Complex designs really can take a lot of time. Jewelers may have to work with gems and other materials which have to be cut and shaped very precisely. For things like diamond rings, a fitting may be required.)

If you OK the quote, the jeweler will make the design as specified.

Jewelery design concepts
 
The more thought and planning you put into your design idea, the better the result is likely to be. Many jewelery designs include a range of issues:

Precious metals: Do you want gold, platinum, white gold or another metal as the base of your design?
Gems: What are your preferred gemstones and color schemes? 

Matching pieces: Do you want matching pieces, like a ring and a necklace with the same design, or perhaps a brooch? (This approach can include a piece containing the design in clear perspective, and matching pieces having the design in miniature.)
Inscriptions: A statement, a single word, or a name are common inscriptions. The rule of thumb is that you can have whatever you can fit on the metal. Anything is possible, if the jeweler says it can be done.
 
A Truly Romantic Gift

The result will be a unique gift, unlike anything else in the world. That’s one of the reasons custom jewelery is so romantic. It’s a special thing between two people. It really is better to give than to receive.

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The Curse of the Dreaded Ex...

No smoke without fire

As this old saying points out "there is no smoke without fire", or how about "there is no such thing as a free lunch"? Possibly the most fitting of phrases translates as: "There is no fool like an old fool." What all these age-old idioms are trying to say is expect the expected. When embarking on new beginnings, there is always a past creeping up behind you. The new beginning is your relationship, the creep is the ex.

And what is it that manifests a nightmare ex? How and why do they strike? And when they do, how do you handle it? 

A thorn in your side
An inheritance can be a positive that comes out of a negative occurrence. Someone passes and it is your birthright to accept your loved-ones bequest. A Genetic disorder is another type, a less appealing form that can not be helped, causing distress amongst those nearest and dearest. Similarly to congenital abnormalities an ex is yet another variation of inheritances, one which materializes long after birth. The good news about the ex is that this is a curable ailment, that when dealt with correctly can be pushed aside and finally: forgotten about... Sigh! 

A nut-job ex is not homogeneous
Not all exes are dragons, a lot of women will move on happily. I can honestly say that I have never been one myself but I can empathize with where they come from. I have lovely friends who I would describe as balanced, kind individuals who have reacted to being scorned in surprising ways. Take my friend who took to hacking into her ex's email account and using the information to cause trouble between him and his current partner. Manipulative? Yes. Crazy? Definitely verging on it. But, in her defense, she was heart-broken and couldn't accept his happiness with someone other than herself. 

What causes an ex to snap?
Here are the top factors that contribute to this irrational phenomenon:
Can't get over it: A very obvious factor, she is still sad and wants him back and finds it difficult to deal with him being with someone else.
Comparing herself: This is a really negative situation that creates jealousy and rage. Rather than focusing on moving on or feeling irritated with her ex. The ex places her anger on the new partner, focusing on physical/personal attributes and a vicious circle of loathing, self-loathing and resentment emerges.
Ego-bashing: This often emerges alongside comparing herself, when the ex starts dwelling and obsessing about why he is with her? Taking his new relationship as a personal attack. It is no longer about being in love with her past partner; it is now the case of a crushed ego! 

Watch out here she comes!
You have met someone great and are happily enjoying this new situation, when out of the blue: the ex rears its ugly head. The ex presents herself in a range of ways, to a variety of effects; however, do not allow yourself to be defeated. Rest assured that the ex is not a permanent feature. Let us take a look at the most common forms of the ex:

The Hanger-oner : This type of ex is probably the least worrying variety, but annoying non the less. The hanger-oner will glue herself onto his friends and family, she is refusing to move on and has made it her mission to remain in his life, while using those closest to him in the process. It is not difficult for a woman to recognize one of these at first glance; unfortunately the same can not be said for him. Men do not deal with guilt well, so rather than facing a situation they will accept it and become oblivious to it. He goes to a party and there she is; lunch out with friends: hello again! In fact he is relieved that she has dealt with the situation so commendably and thinks it is great that everyone is friends. When suddenly, he meets you and things start to change. The ex is no longer sending out such positive vibes, awkward silences appear when she runs from the room in floods of tears. His friends are finding themselves spending far too much time reassuring the ex, while she expels venom. Hang on a second, who is this girl? Isn't this the ex? When reality dawn’s things will naturally adjust, she will move out and you will move in.

The story-teller: Now this lady has an award-winning imagination! Be prepared for a whole host of fabrications and manipulations. She will say whatever it takes to poison what you have: because she wants it! A story-teller needs very little information to create her tales, all it takes is a lie, any kind of lie and she can cause an effect. For example, it gets back to you that he has been asking to get back with her... Begging in fact! But, he is with you, confused?! After the initial shock and horror has passed and you have finally allowed him to explain himself, you realize that there is not an ounce of truth or proof in this story. It has been created for effect and is a silly form of manipulation. Secure and kind people may find this whole situation alien and difficult to deal with, falling into her trap time after time. However, even the most naive individuals will catch on eventually. The most effective way to deal with this situation is to ignore the rumors, ignore her, and eventually they will get bored and move on.

The crazed-nut: A frightening ex, which hopefully you will never have to encounter. Unfortunately these unhinged individuals are much more common than one would hope! The crazed-nut is unable to keep her anguish and frustration inside and has a tendency to lash out verbally as well as physically. Negative text messages and phone calls? Threatening vibes when you are out and about? Physical attacks?? No way! The crazed-nut needs to be put firmly in her place, not by you of course! Sell the b****h out! Contact her family or friends and let them know that she has lost it, if they can't calm her down, call the authorities! This type of extreme behavior can not be accepted. Once dealt with, depending on her degree of crazy, she will get over it and move on or she will be in some form of institution far enough away for you to forget all about her!

Note: These forms of exes are not exclusive to their named category and the behaviors outlined can overlap in a number of ways). 

Fighting your corner... Alone
It has become obvious that there is a bitter ex lurking around your new relationship, she is pulling out the punches, and you are feeling the impact. It is clear as crystal, but, he can't see it! Frustrating is the word! Don't let this get the better of your relationship there are important aspects that MUST be taken into consideration:

To start off, you must make allowances for the fact that he has been in a relationship with this woman and therefore at one stage they shared strong feelings for each other. He is still going to care for her and will try and ignore any negativity that comes out of it. Men want an easy life, so if they can sweep something under the carpet they will.

Often he will only see how he is being affected by the situation, if he can handle it then that is all there is to it, because it is HIS past relationship he sees it as something that involves him only, it may take him a while to pick up on the fact that it also has an affect on YOU.

He does not recognize her behavior. He was in a relationship with the ex and had a certain opinion of her, hopefully a good one. Now that she has become his ex, new sides are emerging that he has not got to working out yet. Unfortunately, at times you could end up baring the brunt of this. For example, his ex is a story-teller and is kindly informing him of things that she has "heard" about you. At this point in time he knows his ex better than he knows you. He isn't aware that she is a desperate manipulator (or he would never have been with her in the first place!) Thankfully, this is short-lived, things will eventually unravel and the truth becomes obvious. The outcome is that you two are now closer than ever, and the ex has been firmly placed out of the picture. 

A negative ex is a positive symbol
This may seem like an odd outlook, but if you take the time to asses the situation you will find that a bitter woman is spawned by the loss of a good man. No woman in her right mind will mourn something rotten. Women that have been treated badly do not begrudge their successor. For example, you have got out of a bad relationship, you are not going to return and haunt him, and instead you will happily leave the situation and concentrate on getting on with your life. When a lady becomes stuck in the past and is desperate to ruin his future it is because she knows that she has lost something great and it is fear that makes her lose sight. So, next time she starts to get under your skin, think about why and pat yourself on the back for bagging a good one!

Next time you are at the early stages of a new relationship and out she pops, do not feel defeated or sad, leave her to fight her own demons. Whatever you do, never and I mean never, let yourself turn into the ex-girlfriend from hell! You are bigger and better than this, stay positive and move forward to bigger and better things... 

About the Author : This is a Guest Post from Miss A is the social media consultant for Kranich's jewelers, providers of Mothers Rings and much more!

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Customized Weddings – How to do things your way, on your Budget

There's something ridiculous and slightly insulting about the idea that a wedding has to look like a magazine cover. After all, who's getting married, you or the advertisers? There's almost nothing worse than a "Brand X" wedding, conducted at hideous expense, and completely devoid of character. This is the Day of Days, and its not an off-the- rack event.

Anyone would think that there was some sort of law requiring newlyweds to put up with unbelievable prices, third-rate catering and getting gouged on a daily basis for even the most minimal requirements of their wedding. It's actually quite easy to create your own beautiful wedding, without people removing your bone marrow in the process.

Customized weddings are very easy to organize. These aren't "DIY" weddings. Customized weddings are based on giving control back to the wedding organizers and providing as many good options as possible for wedding planners. It is actually pretty easy to organize a wedding, and save a fortune while you're at it. 

Custom Weddings, Basics

Having control means controlling costs and controlling quality. Wedding planners operate on a strictly controlled budget, and so can you. It's really quite easy to pin down costs, when you know how.

The basic elements of a custom wedding are: 

Location: You can hold your wedding anywhere you feel like holding it, and that includes the reception. You can choose the most beautiful, meaningful place to hold your wedding ceremony and in many cases there is no cost at all involved apart from the cost of getting there. Marriage celebrants are usually pretty flexible, and unless you want to conduct your wedding vows while hang gliding, there should be no problem. 

Wedding guest numbers: The number of wedding guests is actually one of the main costs of holding a wedding. This number is scalable, and to avoid hurting anyone's feelings you can invite people left out of the ceremony to the reception. As a matter of fact, for the best effect, inviting fewer people is usually much better idea. Having a "wedding in a crowd" can be unnerving experience, and the bride and groom it rushed off their feet talking to large numbers of people. 

Catering: Catering really does not have to cost a fortune. Some of the most expensive catering is also some of the worst. If you've ever seen one of those "wedding dinners" in which a tadpole and a sprig of parsley are referred to as a meal, you'll appreciate exactly how much of a rip-off this type of catering actually is. Any competent caterer can provide good food and plenty of it, at reasonable prices. Shop around until you have pinned down exact costs and quality of food and drink. 

Wedding Dresses: One of the greatest wedding myths of all time is the one which says the bride must go broke to have a decent wedding dress. That's simply ridiculous. Any professional dressmaker can produce a perfectly good wedding dress, designed to your tastes, at a reasonable price, using the materials you want. The same applies to the dresses for bridesmaids.

Weddings are personal. So are the costs and quality issues. Just remember – You are entitled to get what you want. You don't have to settle for anything less.

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Is Sibling Comparison that Bad? Sibling Rivalry and Differential Parental Treatment

Many of us as children have been victims of sibling comparison and partiality from Parents. Comparing one child to another or treating one kid differently from the other increases sibling rivalry as hostility is created in the mind of the child who feels inferior because of the unfair comparison. Each child is different and has both positives and negatives. By proper motivation and encouragement even the negatives can be turned into positives. But when a child is put down in front of the other it can not only poison the sibling relationship but also make the kid feel worthless, neglected and inferior. Many parents who do such comparisons are not aware of the effects of sibling comparison and do it because of their false notion that it is a good way to set a kid right. But the truth is such comparisons can make the affected child to nurture feelings of jealousy, anger and hatred towards the parents and the sibling who got the special treatment. So it is very important that sibling have to be treated fairly and not shown partiality.

Are you always praising one kid and insulting or putting down the other?
Do you put down your kid in front of his sibling or others by pointing out his negatives?
Do you pamper your younger child while you are strict with your older one?
Do you show discrimination based on gender of the children?

If the answer is ‘Yes’ to the Questions it’s time to stop right now before it is too late. Many times Sibling comparison or differential parental treatment can lead kids to getting into bad habits like drinking, drugs, stealing etc. It is the duty as Parents to show the child his or her mistakes and correct them but it should be done in a tactful manner that he or she does not feel inferior. Unfair comparisons to a sibling can also make a kid stop trying to better themselves when they find it difficult to live up to the accomplishment of the siblings. Many children do not forget the Parenting mistakes and hurt experienced in childhood even after they become adults and seek revenge or keep grudge on Parents or sibling. So as Parents it is best to eliminate comparison between kids and help them develop a positive and strong bonding with the sibling. Parents should remember that when they call a child ‘bad’ and ‘useless’ in front of a sibling or others they are actually encouraging the child to be really bad and useless.

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How to Stay Connected to Friends

Staying in touch with friends on the Internet has never been easier! You can email, instant message, blog, voice chat, video chat, tweet or vlog. Even if you’re new to the World Wide Web or simply looking for another method of digital communication, you have plenty of options to choose from.

Email is a simple and clean way to send digital letters to all of your friends. You usually log on to your email server’s homepage to check your email, but there are programs to get faster access and added security. Email programs allow you to easily and quickly check your email because they save your log in information and log you in automatically.

Outlook Express: Microsoft's built in email management program. It gives you all the basics of security and email HTML editing. It comes with Internet Explorer and later versions of Windows such as Vista.

Thunderbird: Thunderbird not only adds a wall of protection around your email, it has a built in junk-mail filter that people rave about. It also protects you from phishing websites and messages that try to gather your personal information.

Instant Messaging programs are great. You can chat back and forth with friends and contacts in a live chat. It's faster than email, but requires that your friends be online and in your contacts list. Most IM programs come with a large collection of smiley face icons but the newer versions have built in voice and video chat features so you aren't limited to just a smiley to express yourself.

Yahoo Instant Messenger: One of the classier IM programs, it’s been around this long for a good reason; it's very clean and user-friendly. It has a great contact list and while you chat, you can challenge a friend to play games.

Pidgin: Pidgin is more versatile than other chat programs because it can combine your contacts from a lot of other IM programs into one. If one friend uses Yahoo while the other is stubborn and uses AOL – you can still chat with them both at the same time in Pidgin! Its cross-program chat features are some of the best.

Blogging is like owning your own news website because you can post whatever you like -- from pictures to plain old text. Blogs can be about whatever topic you want too! You can make a blog about your dog, your favorite recipes, cars or anything else you can think of. You're reading this on a blog right now. Vlogging is just like blogging only in video form! A lot of vloggers use YouTube to host their videos, which they then link to on their blog site. It's a great way to explain your feelings or show someone how to do something that might be hard to explain in writing.

The most popular and largest communication method on the net aside from blogs is the world of social networking websites. Massive monsters like MySpace, Facebook, Twitter and others allow you to track thousands of contacts, friends and family in one place, play games and find people you forgot you knew. Each has its own learning curve, but they are all worth it!

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Happy Valentine's Day 2011

Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love, the most beautiful feeling in the world. For Couples it is a wonderful day to express their love and affection for their Partners. So what if you are single and alone on Valentine’s Day? Then you could celebrate Single Awareness Day (or let me call it Single Appreciation Day instead considering the numerous benefits of being Single) which falls on the same date.

I take this Opportunity to wish all my Blog Readers and Guest Bloggers a very wonderful Valentines Day/ Single Awareness Day!

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5 Vanity License Plates that Won’t Get You a Date

You’ve seen them on different websites, while driving down the road, or in pictures that friends and family have sent you. They’re vanity license plates—some of which can be really cute, and others that make you wonder about the person driving the car (and not in a good way). When driving by a cutie in a car, you don’t want them to second guess talking to you because of the message your vanity plate is sending.

While vanity plates can be fun to spot and try to figure out, they can actually scare potential dates away and attract cops. Especially if the officer reading them misinterprets the message and, you may not be aware of this, but each time you are stopped, a record is kept—even if you are not issued a citation.

Frequent stops by the police may have a negative effect on your car insurance once your insurance company finds out about it (and chances are, they will). The more you pay for auto insurance quote and tickets, the less money you have to spend on dates, it all comes full circle. So, this means you probably don’t want to have a vanity plate that says: 

JAILBRD (jailbird). Somebody really had this one on their license and who wants to date someone who is proud of going to jail?

LV2SPD, ND4SPD (love to speed, need for speed). If nothing else, the cops will keep radar trained on your car while alerting other officers up the road that you’re coming. In this instance, even driving a couple of miles over the speed limit could get you pulled over and a citation issued. Some women may like this, but I prefer to live while riding passenger on dates.

DYNGR. According to a news story published on December 9, 2009 in the Muskegon Chronicle, this license plate has been misinterpreted as a racial slur (Die n-word). The owner says it’s an abbreviation that blends his two favorite Harleys: The Dyna Wide Glide and the Soft Tail Springer into one word. Red Flag for me, you would not get another date after seeing this one.

Anything that expresses one’s dislike, animosity, or other negative feelings toward law enforcement (even if it’s not supposed to mean that: see #3.) This can be anything from IH8Cops (again, not a real one) to FDPOPO (“f*** the” and “popo” is slang in some areas for police).

Anything that might can be interpreted as support for drug use (CRAKDUP, or XTASY, for example). This might get you pulled over and you and your car searched for probable cause. I don’t know about you, but dating a drug addict is not on my dating bucket list.

If you must have vanity plates, choose the wording carefully. Even then, ask the DMV to let you see their list of banned or prohibited vanity plates to make sure yours doesn’t even come close. This will prevent your license plate from affecting your insurance premium and more importantly your dating life. 

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How To Ensure Your Security When Dating Online

Spruce up your appearance and take your grooming very seriously! Although we live in a highly technological age, nothing has changed as far as basic human nature goes, and you will want to look your best for that big date.

Technology has provided a fantastic venue for finding the perfect partner. The big buzz centers around online dating for all those seeking to find the ideal mate. You can meet the love of your life while chatting about nothing in particular. Who knows?

The modern system of online dating allows people to share the innermost feelings of their hearts in a friendly, semi-anonymous environment. It is a boon for those who are shy or introverted and who have a bit of trouble opening up face-to-face, at least at first.

Online dating gives you a chance to share your feelings with that mysterious special someone. When you do find a person who seems compatible, you can go out and meet him or her. But don't worry, it's not scary at all. It will follow a few online chats and probably a few phone calls. By the time you actually meet, you will probably already know the other person well.

Don't know where to begin? Just make an online search of dating sites. Once you have joined a site that seems to best fit your needs, you can start browsing the profiles of the other members.

Not all of the participants will be there for casual encounters either; some seek serious relationships. Not a few will probably be quiet and somewhat shy in person, at least until you get to know them, much of the process of which can be done online.

Finding compatible people online is pretty easy. The ball is in your court and the entire decision lies with you as to just whose profile interests you and who you want to date.

Now, you may have been scared off by some of the horror stories surrounding online dating. It is true that it has been stigmatized by some disreputable people. It has its drawbacks, such as participants who lack credibility and deliberately mislead the other participants. But remember that without risk there is no possibility of gain. Being misled by someone can and does happen quite frequently in "real life," but does this mean that we stop meeting different people? Obviously, that is not the way we wish to live our lives.

Do not forget that online you have every chance to test the person you're interacting with on a psychological, emotional and intellectual level, through the messages you exchange with him or her before dating. Moreover, the opportunity to hide your personal information until you feel it is safe to do so gives you the upper hand.

Blocking people who attempt to bypass your rights as an Internet user by spamming or sending misleading information is another advantage in getting rid of those you don't want to be around. If only it was so easy to escape a drunk or other loser in real life!

The many securities offered through online dating, if taken advantage of, make it an effective and safe place to search for your lover. So discard those scary images, cast aside that loneliness, and find the right match for you through the online dating sites.

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What you should not get for your partner on Valentine's Day

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and with it comes those feelings of anxiousness and apprehension at what gift to buy for your partner. It’s the old story, for men in particular, namely just what gift to give your girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse. Will a box of chocolates, a bouquet of flowers and a card do the job? Or will you be a bit more extravagant and dish out the cash? Perhaps a holiday away from it all will show your partner you truly love them?

But, then again, maybe we should think along the lines of what you shouldn’t buy your partner – I mean, that one gift that is really going to take the romance out of Valentine’s Day and leave you flat lining. Those are the gifts we should really be thinking about, the ones that we need to make sure we don’t purchase half-arsed, last minute on the day. So, let’s take a look.

Cosmetic surgery
Nothing says I love you than a gift to your partner for cosmetic surgery – right? No, it’s not the best idea on what is supposed to be the most romantic day of the year to give your partner a gift that pretty much tells them their breasts are drooping, there are too many wrinkles flying about and you would rather their rump had a bit more shape to it.

Gym membership
There may be some issues in your relationship, but that doesn’t mean you need to give your partner a gift that discreetly informs them that they need to go for a run. Maybe save this gift for just after Christmas, when your partner is making those soon to be failed New Year’s resolutions. But it probably still won’t go down very well.

Slutty outfit for the bedroom
Now, I’m making a bit of an assumption here that you and your partner are not into domination or the like in the bedroom? There’s nothing wrong with it, believe me, but on Valentine’s Day it’s more about the romance than kinky sex games in the bedroom, or at least until you draw the curtains at night. This is supposed to be a day to show how much you love your partner, not how much you lust after them, so maybe forget about the nurse or maid outfit, or fireman outfit for the ladies in need of a gift for their partner.

Last minute gift
Now, this can in fact come from anywhere, be it the supermarket or gas station or what you find on the side of the road. You’re supposed to put some thought into the gift, or at least that’s what they say, so when you arrive home with a card and flowers it’s likely to get you nothing but a night on the sofa.
I hope for all your sake you manage to purchase the gift that lights up your partner’s eyes, but if it doesn’t just remember there’s plenty more fish in the sea. Got to be positive!

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Think She's Pregnant? Find Out Surreptitiously

If you’re wondering whether or not your partner may be pregnant, but she hasn’t said anything to you yet, there are some ways you can confirm your suspicions. At least until will feel more comfortable to ask her. If she is, she may be relieved to know that you’ve already figured it out. And if it is false alarm... well, then just make amends as best as you can. 

Most obvious signs of pregnancy 

Have her breasts changed? Don’t touch them, no matter how tempting it is. If she is pregnant, they will be tender than usually and even the gentlest squeeze can hurt. Look for these signs: they have gotten bigger and are taking on a more rounded shape; the areola, the area around the nipples, is getting darker; the veins seem to be more noticeable. (This may be very easy to see if she is fair-skinned.) 

Has she missed her period? If you haven’t noticed the usual signs that her period is occurring (discarded pads or tampons or her usual complaints of cramping and bloating) or you know her menstrual cycle and she is late then she very well may be pregnant. 

Is she complaining about nausea or throwing up frequently (and not necessarily in the morning)? If she is, and you know for sure there isn’t a virus going around or she hasn’t eaten anything that disagreed with her, she may be pregnant. Along with the nausea may also come an aversion to food odors such as cooked meat, coffee, or even perfumes. 

Is she more tired than usual? For example, does she fall asleep every time she sits down or does she have to go to bed as soon as she gets home (sometimes without even eating dinner)? Or does she come home from work so fatigued that you can actually see it in her face and in the way she moves? The increased fatigue is usually one of the earliest signs of pregnancy. Taken in conjunction with the other ones listed, as well as your gut feeling that something is different, these can all be signs that you and your partner may be expecting a new addition to the family.

Although it may be very hard to do so, when you approach her with your suspicions, try to be as neutral as possible. If she denies that she is pregnant, drop the subject, unless she asks you why you think so. Then, tell her what you’ve noticed. 

CONCLUSION

If she tells you that she’s indeed pregnant, and you can’t tell exactly how she feels about that, ask her. Do it before you tell her your feelings because you want to base your response on her emotional state. If she’s happy and you’re not, gently let her know why you feel the way you do. If you’re happy and she’s not, drop the subject and wait for her to bring it up again. 

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How to start Dating again after Break up from a Long Term Relationship

Single again after breaking up from a long term relationship? Unsure of how and when to start dating again? For many, the most frightening part of beginning to date again is being “in the butcher’s window” once again. You go out to the hot spots in hopes that some savvy shopper will notice you. Looking for a date can certainly feel like that sometimes too. Then there is the waiting around, but things seem to never happen. What can make it harder is having many of your friends still in relationships. The ugly truth of it all is this means you are going it alone; at least until you make some single friends. If you want to get back out there into the thick of things with less stress read on.

The first thing you will notice is that the dating scene has changed since the last time you were in it. Women are no longer just sitting on the sideline waiting to be asked to dance or for some guy to offer to buy them a drink. It is normal now for either party to make the first move. But before any of this takes place you’ll have to relearn to be “you” instead of “us”. Being part of a long-term couple and going through a rough break can sometimes change the essence of who you are. Take the time to learn about who you have become. Embrace the good and be ready to reinvent the parts that you do not like.

Jumping back into the cauldron of a relationship may not be what you want to focus on right away; first, deal with and get over any personal issues from your last. If the break up was a bad one, there could be much healing still to be done. A lot of times we come out of these relationships feeling like somehow we failed. If the person left you for someone else it is hard to imagine anyone that wouldn’t walk away with some damage to the self-esteem. Do not fall into the mental trap and let him/her make you feel it was somehow your fault they strayed. You will get our “mojo” back but it takes time. Do the things you always wanted to do but didn’t because the partner was against it. Explore your creative side. Take a few classes for fun or even go back to school and pursue something new.

Before you start accepting dates again make sure you have truly unloaded the “truck load of garbage” from the old relationship. Nothing ruins a new budding relationship like the ghosts of relationship past. Do not bore or horrify your date with your old relationship news, views and problems. Focus on now and your future, your date neither cares nor wants to know about how things didn’t work out. That is why it is best to seek some sort of counseling to get your emotions and mind back to a healthy space. It is better to get it from a professional but at least find someone neutral to unload and confide in. This way you will be free to let the next person inside your walls. Old wounds can easily make us defensive and bitter without even realizing it; the defensive mechanism(s) you unconsciously put into place could spoil any hope of building a better or healthier relationship.

Dating is the short term objective, and a relationship may or may not be in what you want for the long term, but the most important thing you need to learn is that you can be a “whole person” by yourself. You do not need someone in your life to feel complete. Remember dating can be competitive, the mental and emotional attitude you take into the dating arena will determine what types of men/women you attract. If you want to attract a whole healthy person, who is confident in themselves and does not need to be constantly reassured, then this is the person you have to project. The people you want to be with want the same things you do, so work on being that person and you will attract them.

About the Author : Rick Valence works Monday through Friday as a digital camera repair specialist at C.R.I.S. Camera Services in Chandler, Arizona. He is also the webmaster of his company's camera repair blog.

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What are you hiding beneath your Shapewear Undergarments?

Physical Appearance plays an important part when it comes to building relationships which is one of the reasons for the popularity of Shapewear undergarments which can help one look shapely, slimmer and hide imperfections on the body. It is not only Celebrities who use slimming undergarments to look picture perfect but also ordinary individuals to hide a fatty belly and increased size of waist because they are affordable.

The Shapewear undergarments can help one look at least 2 sizes slimmer instantly by putting the curves back to where they belong thereby helping one to be more confident about their looks. For women especially this underwear helps to eliminate bra bulges, sagging skin, bulging tummy and visible panty lines which look ugly especially when you wear tight fitting clothes. So these are definitely a blessing to woman who wants to look good. But, are these slimming undergarments a permanent solution? It is definitely not. Shapewear Undergarments may be a quick body slimming solution but there is no way one can compare a healthy body and skin which is the result of a healthy diet and exercising.

However, Looks are not everything when it comes to building relationships. The overall personality of an individual depends a lot on his or her belief and confidence level. This is where the Power of the subconscious mind can be of great help because the body portrays the working of the mind. It is a proven fact that the subconscious can heal malignancy of the skin and also control all the functions of the body. As someone who has used the subconscious mind to achieve goals I can vouch that it works. For those who have no idea on how to utilize the power of the subconscious mind I would highly recommend 'The Power of your subconscious mind' by Dr Joseph Murphy which is one of the most powerful self help guides ever written on this subject. By putting the techniques which you learn from the book into practice one would be able to build harmonious friendships, improve marital bonds, conquer bad habits, acquire wealth and much more.

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Platinum and Diamond Love Bands – A Preferred Gift of the Rich and Elite on Valentine’s Day

One of the most preferred gifts by the rich are Platinum and Diamond Love Bands to show their love and appreciation for their partners. Why is it a choice gift of the elite? Is it because it is costly? Is it the cost factor which makes a gift special?

When shopping for gifts it does not matter whether the gift is small or cheap, the value in terms of love is beyond measure. It is definitely not the cost factor but the feeling and love with which we give a gift which makes a gift special. I am sure you agree to my Opinion. If so, why is Diamond and Platinum Rings the choice gift of the rich and elite? Why Girlfriend’s or wives love such a gift from a Boyfriend or Husband on special occasions like Valentine’s Day to celebrate love? True, Diamond and Platinum are both costly and used for expression of wealth. But there is more to Diamond and Platinum Jewelry than its cost of purchase. So, what is it that makes Diamond and Platinum Jewelry Special?

Diamond is the Gemstone and platinum is the metal associated with Planet Venus which is representation of love, marriage, beauty and comforts. Moreover, they make a good combination as gemstone and metal.

Diamond and Platinum are both beautiful, strong and durable which is why they are considered indicative of stability and longevity in love and marriage. Moreover, Wearing Diamond ring as Jewelry is said to lead towards love and devotion in relationships and increase passion and sexual desires.

Both are rare, unique and precious which makes it an ideal gift for celebration of love and to mark occasions like Valentine’s Day, Wedding, Engagement, Anniversary, Birthday, New year, Christmas etc.

Because of the special significance and importance of Platinum and Diamond Jewelry, there is even a contest and campaign going on Facebook where couples can share their Platinum Day of Love Story and win Designer Jewelry. So, now that you know the symbolism, significance and meaning of a Diamond and Platinum Love Band, why not gift your Girlfriend or Wife one this Valentine’s Day as your expression of Love?

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Send Flowers Online to a Long Distance Boyfriend or Girlfriend for Valentine’s Day

Many People these days are involved in long distance relationships where meeting on Valentine’s Day may not be a possible option. So what to do to express your love and gratitude for the person you love so much? This is where Online Stores can help you. If you have a Boyfriend or Husband (Girlfriend or Wife) working abroad you could send gifts and flowers through Online Florist Shops.Not only Valentine’s Day but Online Florists are a blessing if you want to send flowers or gifts during occasions like Birthdays, promotion, Weddings, Anniversaries, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day or even a Funeral.

What makes Online Florists a preferred choice of many? What are some benefits of these stores which make them stand out from local shops? Given are some reasons why you should buy flowers from Online Florists.

You can send Flowers to anywhere in the World.
Online Florists offer a wide variety of flowers like Orchids, Carnations and Roses etc to name a few to choose from.
Online Florists ensure delivery on time.
They offer you convenience in shopping and less out of pocket expenses in terms of travelling etc and saves your time too.
Most Online Florists also offer other gift items like vases, Chocolates, soft toys etc which can also be delivered along with the flowers.

So why not Say it with Roses this Valentine’s Day? Go ahead and surprise a loved one this Valentine’s Day with a lovely bouquet of red roses and say ‘I love you’. I am sure your efforts would be appreciated.

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Creating Your Dating Bucket List

Dating is a period in your life that comes and goes. Unless your last name is Clooney, rarely do people get to date their whole life through. The idea is to go out and have your fun, and when you are ready to settle down, know that you have no regrets for the way you handled your single days. If you want to do dating right, you need to aim for the stars and make the most of it. That's why if you're going to date you need to create your dating bucket list. It should be a list of all the things you want to do in the dating world, and all the people you'd like to date. If you're not sure how it goes, here's a how to guide to creating your dating bucket list.

Be Bold

The bucket list isn't about trying to get a date with a blonde or a guy who's funny. Those things should be easy to do. A bucket list is about doing things that will create a long lasting memory for you. Think about dating someone who looks, or acts, like a character from your favorite TV show and go out with them just because of that. Don't be afraid to make your bucket list bold. That's the point.

Make Them Achievable

While it's admirable to set your sights high, wanting to date the entire cast of Friends is certainly asking a lot. Don't give yourself goals on your bucket list that even the most driven people couldn't pull off. Instead aim high, but only so high, achievable goals are key. Try dating "any celebrity" instead of THE celebrity. You'll find yourself in a much better position to cross it off the list.

Be Fun

It's not enough to just pick and weird and random goals. A bucket list is your chance to date whoever you want. Even if they aren't marriage material, you can still have fun getting to know them and seeing where it goes. So, pick the kind of people you want to date, would love to try and date, and even those you have never thought of dating. Perhaps you want to date someone with an odd or unusual job, or maybe you want to date someone who has an extensive stamp collection; whatever the motivation is, just make it fun for you.

Take a Bad Date

Part of a memorable experience is having a bad date. Instead of searching for the perfect date and risking getting stuck on a bad date, why not try aiming for a bad date? Find the type of person you'd never want to go on a date with, and then put that type of person on your list. Then you'll either have the horrid date you thought you’d have, or you'll be surprised at how much fun you really had.

Don't worry at all about marking everything off your bucket list. All you have to do is create a list and follow it any time you can. You'll find that there is a great world of dating waiting for you.

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Dating Tips for Single Moms

Dating is always a complicated game, but even more so when you are a single parent looking for romance. It might seem like yesterday that you were struggling with pregnancy signs and symptoms like morning sickness, but dating as a single mother is a whole other struggle! What is the best way to land a great guy when you are a mother, and how do you find time to go on dates at all? And how and when should you introduce your date to your child(ren)?

Do be upfront about the fact that you are a mother when you go on dates, but think carefully before introducing a date to your kids. It might even help to set yourself a specific time frame. Wait for at least three months of dating, for example, until your kids meet your date. It might sound like a terrible cliche, but that is because it is true – you hardly want to create lifelong memories for your children of meeting a different “step dad” every weekend!

When you are a mom, you make the dating rules! You get to decide when you go out, and how often, and at what time you’re going to be home. Single mothers’ lack of flexibility might seem like an obstacle when it comes to dating, but this can actually turn out to be an enormous advantage. You will be able to “weed out” the guys that are not sensitive to your needs at record speeds.

As a parent, you do not merely choose a partner for yourself; you also choose someone who will be part of your children’s lives. You have every right to have high expectations of anyone you meet – in fact, it’s your duty! If someone you are dating does not meet your demands, isn’t it better to find out about that sooner rather than later? Talking about your children is not the non-parent equivalent of bringing up the use of an ovulation calendar on your first date. It has to be clear that any future partner will get a package deal, and not just one woman.

Last but not least, dating is totally normal and should be fun! Many single parents feel guilty about dating, but there is no need for that. No matter how much you love your kids, it is perfectly fine to want and need adult company and a nice night out. Don’t spend your whole date wondering how your child is doing with the baby sitter – enjoy it!

If you are someone who genuinely hates dating, we have only one suggestion for you... don’t do it! You don’t have to date to meet a great partner for life. You could meet him at work, in the supermarket, or anywhere else. And if you love being a single parent and don’t want to be partnered up at all, don’t feel pressured into dating anyway! 

About the Author: Tania is a R.N., personal trainer and nutritionist, passionate about topics related to the female body, pregnancy signs, and birth. A new addition to her site is personalized and free Ovulation Calendar.

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