3 Tips for Using Eye Contact When On a Date

One of the key attributes when having great body language is eye contact. We all hear about the importance of eye contact and how vital it is in the world of flirting. Movies have suffocated eye contact in every first kiss, in every first meeting, in every meaning of raw emotional attraction there is to be shown between two people. A person who lacks the ability to keep their vision aligned with someone else can seem off putting or uninterested. Effective eye contact can make all the difference. When someone takes a few seconds to focus their eyes directly on a person it could send signals down the whole body, leaving them with a nervous flutter that echoes all over their skin. With the growing popularity of eye gazing parties where participants are directed to make eye contact with other people and rate their responses, it’s easy to acknowledge the power of perfect eye contact.

Even with proper practice and a firm grasp on eye contact, there are still many outside factors that highly affect the power of a proper gaze. It is obvious that there are a portion of people who tend to stare in really creepy ways, and that type of behavior is just not welcoming. There are certain elements that separate a creepy person from an attractive person’s ability to make eye contact. A lot of proper eye contact has to do with the rest of the body. The body needs to be adjusted to seem more inviting. When keeping eye contact it’s very important to keep in mind that your whole body can allow a more trusting and attractive personality.

First off, when you stare at someone you want to close your mouth. An open mouth gives off the signal that you’re lost thinking about other things in life. There are two options to use in this position. You could close your mouth completely, this allows you to make tiny signals with your mouth where you could make them smaller to point forward or keep them wide as if to grin at any point. You could also purse your lips, which is seen to be a very sexually enticing thing to do when done correctly. By pursing your lips you don’t close your mouth completely, but you leave a small but significant opening. This position should look as if you’re making a slight exhaling movement.

Secondly, even though it’s seen as a small attribute that’s overlooked, the chin is also a point that helps eye contact. Historically, the size of a person’s chin has been seen to be a measure of their confidence and dominance. That’s why long beards were always seen to be fashionable in past time periods. By elongating your chin you could automatically be perceived as more confident.

Thirdly, the position of your neck is a very significant factor to your eye contact. You might’ve noticed that in most fashion magazines there’s a lot of focus put on the structure of a model’s neck. The length of your neck is a very vital quality when attracting people. A scrunched up neck gives off the feeling that you lack a sense of confidence. Since the neck becomes the focal point, it’s really important to adjust your spine, shoulders, chest, and stomach because the neck is really dependent on all of these features. These simple tips can help you create stronger, more memorable interactions with your dates and improve your dating success. 

About the Author: This is a Guest Post from Jonathan Manor who writes for Consumer-Rankings.com, a website which focuses on providing its visitors with ratings and reviews for Top Dating Sites along with many other Products and Services. When he is not writing about relationship advice or working on his Blog, he likes eating pie and hogging the blanket.

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How to prepare for a Romantic Date on a Budget

Dating has become a problem when almost a majority cannot even afford the usual dinner in a nice restaurant. While it may not always be possible to fit an expensive date into your budget, you can always put the romance into a more budget-friendly date. You are not being a cheapskate; people are now more aware of the importance of frugality, and by showing how well you spend your money, you are showing your resourcefulness and reliability. First, let us break down three essential things to put to mind before you plan a romantic date on a budget.

1. The Element of Surprise : The beauty of a surprise is that it involves a lot of excitement regardless of the budget that you have for a date. As long as there is an element of surprise, you will be able to put a smile on a face and make your date feel special. 
2. Inspire Communication : Real communication is the real romance. An expensive date will not take the place of one that is filled with talks about dreams and goals, of love and friendship, of things that bring you happiness and things that you’re grateful for. Romantic communication does not only involve spoken words, but also with your eyes and body language, your choices and your actions, your heart and your soul. 
3. Aim to Build Friendship: As long as a relationship is built on friendship, it will not matter whether you plan a cheap or expensive date. A real romantic date allows you to get to know the real person. Aiming to build friendship with your date will let you have a great time regardless of the kind of date you have because you have a good understanding of each other. Since there are no inhibitions and no pretenses, expectations from each other are real ,and the relationship usually stands the test of time.

Now that you have these three important elements to consider, it should encourage you and make you realize that money isn’t really essential for having a good time on a date. But whatever funds you can spare can help you out. So, try to make some small lifestyle changes so that you can save a little extra cash to play with on your romantic date. However little you are able to set aside, you can still plan a budget-friendly date that is both memorable and romantic. Here are some ideas on how to go about it:

• Create a Dating Budget : A budget, on many aspects, are very important because it keeps you focused on what you want without losing sight of what you can actually afford. Having a date budget forces you to organize your activities and make smart choices. The less budget you have for a date, the more it inspires our creativity and sometimes bring up talent and skills you never knew you had.
• Know your common interest : You should at least have an idea on what your date is interested in, and find a way to fuse it together with your own interest. You see, people have a natural tendency to bond closer with those that they connect with in many different levels. By knowing what your common interests are, you will be able to plan the activities of your date that you will both enjoy.
• Choose the Activity : Create a list of what you both enjoy doing and include some other things that excite you too. Browse the Internet for a lot of inspiring ideas, and you could probably use them to come up with good ideas yourself. The ideas do not have to be original, but it must be enjoyable for both of you. Sometimes with all the pressure to impress a date, we just need a little reminder that the most beautiful memories are the ones that touched our feelings.
• Look for Discounts : When you have planned out your activities, it is easier to look for discounts. You can again check the Internet for any special deals on the activities on your list. You can also check advertisements and sale circulars for coupons or restaurant deals that can lessen your expenses.
• Consider low-budget Alternatives : There are always cheaper alternatives! You just have to adjust your attitude to how you perceive a romantic date. A home-cooked meal with a personally-styled setting is just as romantic as a going to a fancy restaurant. Instead of hanging at a coffee shop and buying over-priced designer coffee, make a lovely home-brewed mug and have a cozy conversation over a few board games. Start learning how to do things so that you can add more alternatives to how you go about your date activities.Make good use out of the numerous online video tutorials and community forums.
• Take advantage of local attractions and the great Outdoors : Sometimes the best places to go are just around the corner. And most local attractions, parks and beaches, are free. It doesn’t matter whether it’s take a walk together, going on a picnic, riding bike trails, or even building a snowman in your own backyard; it’s all about taking advantage of all your resources or what is available.
• Be creative : Even the most expensive dates can lose its magic. By being creative every time, you’ll be able to spark and rekindle passion, and save money at the same time. Plan unique outings that are far from the typical dinner and a movie. When it comes to gifts, it does not have to cost you an arm and leg. The best gifts are the ones that have sentimental value. It is true that it is the thought that counts; putting effort into the gift is even better.

Lastly, remember that a date should be special and romantic but, most of all, carefree and fun. The budget is only small matter to consider in preparing a romantic date, because the goal really, is to create happy memories.

About the Author:  This is a Guest Post from Krisca C. Te who is part of the team that maintains Australian Credit Cards, a complimentary credit card comparison service and a personal finance blog based in Sydney, Australia. Before she joined ACC, she was an Associate in Deutsche Bank Group under Market and Instruments Control Services

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How to avoid Unwanted Attention from Men

Sometimes I feel that Unwanted Attention from men is a price to pay or consequence for being a Woman. As a Woman I love to be the center of attraction. I love to be praised, pampered and appreciated. Attention from the opposite sex can make one feel good and also give an ego boost. But sometimes when the attention from men becomes too much or when it is from someone you are least interested in, it can be annoying and embarrassing. Attention can be flattering but the problem is when it crosses the line. What can a Woman do in such a situation? While I would not mind any amount of attention from those who are close to me, I definitely would not want random men on the streets or elsewhere trying their cheesy lines on me. I guess it is the same with most Women. We definitely do want the love and attention from men, but just not all men. We want attention from those whom we love and those whom we find attractive. But unfortunately the largest number of admirers many women tend to have does not fall in that category. So how do we keep away unwanted attention from Males? How to discourage a Man? How to chase a  Guy away?

One of the most effective strategies implemented by Indian woman to avoid attracting unwanted attention from men is by addressing them as ‘Brother’ or ‘Uncle’ and I have seen it working personally. Even now the practice of girls tying Rakhi on Raksha Bandhan Festival Day on guys whom they are not interested romantically continues.

How to deal with unwanted attention from a man? Actually no one solution works for everyone. One has to pick and choose what she thinks might work depending on the situation and type of men dealing with. If it is a guy on the street or bus stop mostly the best thing to do is to ignore or walk away and not showing any sign of interest. After a few days they may give up trying.

In case of men you meet regularly like neighbors, friends, colleagues, gym buddies etc whom you have no interest in romantically it is best not to give them any sort of encouragement. Many times they may just get fed up when they get no response and stop trying. If a guy repeatedly hit on you and ask you out indirectly when you are not interested avoid giving him any sort of encouragement. You may evade the issue, change the topic or make a smart remark to put off the Guy. But if the Guy is direct in his approach try being polite and nice when you say ‘No’. But the problem with many men unfortunately is that they do not take ‘No’ for an answer. Such men can be a real pain for woman who wishes to avoid them. Turning away such men is not an easy job. It is very important that you make sure that the Guy gets the message that you are not interested. Honesty is the best policy- So it’s best to be honest about the issue and not give false hopes to the Guy. Avoiding the issue or dragging it only can cause further problems and hurt. So it is best to ‘say it’. Most Guys are not good at taking rejection for Women they like. What do you do when a Guy won’t quit? If the Guy is still not getting the message and troubling you try being blunt and be firm in your answer. Let them know that when you say ‘No’ it means ‘No’ and not ‘Yes’ or ‘maybe’. But unfortunately many times even this won’t work and you are left with no option other than being mean and insulting. This is not a preferred choice but a last resort when nothing else works. If even that is not putting of a Guy and he is still troubling you and it is a Question of your personal safety and security then don’t delay in contacting the authorities immediately.

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5 Things Your Groom Can do to Help Plan the Wedding

A wedding takes a lot of planning and many grooms are sometimes at a loss as to what they can do to help. There are many tasks a Groom can do to help in Wedding planning. So what are the things a Groom can do to help? Here is a Guide of things a groom can do to get involved.

1. Take care of accommodations for out of town guests: Anyone who has to come from out of town for your wedding will need a place to stay. The groom can be the one to arrange where that will be by scoping out locations that make sense for being close to the ceremony and/or the reception and pricing out different options at the various nearby hotels. It helps to find out in advance approximately how many people will want accommodation and then reserve them in a block so they can be together and at a lesser price. This task can also include booking the suite for your wedding night – but you may not want to do it at the same hotel, lest some merrymaking reception guests come knocking at your door later on!
2. Take care of the rehearsal dinner: The groom's parents will probably pay for the rehearsal dinner, but the groom should handle the details of it all. He should decide what is served and how things at the rehearsal dinner will flow. He might consider asking his mother for assistance with the preparation of the food and spend the time with her because it will likely make her very happy, save money and give the groom and his mother a great chance to have some quality time together during a very busy and emotional time.
3. Take care of the drinks at the reception: Everyone knows that the adult beverages at the reception are many peoples' favorite part, especially the groom and groomsmen. So the groom should be in charge of making sure the bar is stocked with everything that he and the guests will want and make sure that it will be affordable and consumed responsibly. He should price out the different options for what will be available, whether to offer an open bar or one that the guests pay for, and arrange who will serve the drinks. He should have a plan for what the bar-tending staff should do if someone is consuming too much alcohol and getting unruly or if someone has had a lot to drink and is intending to drive. He should look into the options for what the wedding reception hall provides and suggests and find out what they charge, compare it to other alternatives and choose the best value for the budget.
4. Take care of the Transportation: Many men love to take care of anything that has to do with cars, so this should be easy. The groom can be in charge of all things relating to transportation for the wedding, reception and honeymoon. He can take care of the logistics of how to get from the house to the ceremony, from the ceremony to the reception, from the reception to the locale of your first night together and finally to the honeymoon and back. He can arrange what car or other mode of transportation to take, price out the options, book it, make sure it's gassed up and ready to go, etc. He should take care of the transportation for the entire wedding party in addition to the bride and groom themselves, and also arrange transportation for any out of town guests or at least let them know their options once they arrive in town. Also importantly, he can tend to details for transportation for any guests at the reception that drink more than they expected and should not drive home.
5. Take care of the Honeymoon : It used to be that the groom planned the honeymoon and the bride would be surprised. Now the couples usually plan the honeymoon together, but regardless, the groom can handle all the details. He can talk to travel agents, book flights, scope out and price the different options for nice accommodation at the destination, and plan the possible activities to do once you're there. He should also make sure any necessary immunizations, passports, or visas are scheduled and secured. This should all be done months in advance.

About the Author : This is a Guest Post from Vern Marker who is a freelance writer for Since 1910 diamond engagement rings, who loves to help couples plan their weddings. His most recent writings have been on eternity rings.

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Keeping Your Relationship Strong

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Should relationships be hard? In a word, yes! Relationships are hard. Anything worth having is worth fighting for, don’t you think? And yes, negotiating the sometimes stormy waters of a relationship can definitely be difficult from time to time. But the difficult times should not be constant, and the relationship itself shouldn’t feel like work. If it does, perhaps you need to redefine what the two of you are looking for. How to keep your relationship strong?

It’s natural for two people in a relationship to not see eye-to-eye on everything. And that’s okay. You don’t have to agree upon everything. It actually keeps things within the relationship interesting and lively if you each have your own individual interests. But ultimately, if you want to keep the relationship moving forward, compromise and communication are the two most essential elements needed to keep your relationship sailing smoothly.

There are plenty of couples out there who have knock-down, dragged out fights, and they are completely and totally in love with each other. Fighting works for them. Other couples cannot weather a simple disagreement and break up when contention rises between them. Each couple is different and you and your partner need to find your own way for what works for you. You can read all the relationship books in the world, and many offer very helpful tools and tips to making your relationship work. But in the end, it comes down to what each of you want separately from the relationship along with what you want as a couple.

You and your own partner are on your own timetable. Don’t let anyone else dictate to you where you should be at three, six or twelve months in. You will be exactly where you are supposed to be. Two people and two people only are steering this ship—you and your partner. If you try to rush things before either one of you are ready, you are headed toward rocky territory. One of the biggest problems some couples face is getting too many opinions from their friends and family as to how to work out the difficult issues that arise. Work those issues out together—between the two of you. Getting multiple opinions from people outside the relationship will only serve to confuse things between you and your partner.

Obviously, if things have gotten out-of-hand and you’re hoping to salvage the relationship, you may consider seeing a professional counselor who can help the two of you work things out. But try to avoid involving friends or family which will only complicate matters. A professional relationship therapist is an impartial third party who will give be able to shed some perspective on the relationship and hopefully help you work out the issues which are causing difficulties between the two of you.

As previously stated, relationships are hard, and you need to stay committed and focused if you want your relationship to go the distance and succeed. But it shouldn’t be torture to be in a relationship. It should be fun and rewarding, enjoyable and loving. One suggested formula that seems to work as far as gauging the success of your relationship says if you are 100 percent happy with your relationship 50 percent of the time, you’re doing great. So learn to work things out, pick your battles and be sure to enjoy each other. Life is so much better when you can share it with someone you love.

About the Author: This is a Guest Post from Debbie Lamedman, a playwright and freelance writer. She currently contributes to various websites where she writes about relationships, online dating and dating services.

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Becoming A Better First Date

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In this age of sexual freedom it is not all that uncommon for the first date to lead to sex. That puts added pressure on you and your date. Both men and women, understandably, can have anxiety due to worries about how they perform or how their bodies look “all natural”. There seems to be one thing neither party ever considers when on a first date and that is leaving sex out of the first date equation. Even if by some chance that idea does cross your or their mind, acting upon it or even bringing it up would not only be presumptuous but awkward no matter how subtle one tries to be. I believe many people, men and women alike, would probably appreciate one night out with someone they could be romantically interested in without having all the extra baggage.

Becoming a good first date means learning to read the subtle clues that are being sent your way. The problem with this is many times men either misread or completely fail to see the clues being sent. Often flirtation is taken to mean that the woman is really trying to go there. And on the other hand, culture has taken a turn and no longer encourages women to use the art of how to be coquettish without seeming promiscuous. How many times have you had a night with a total dud but still somehow ended up in bed and woke up wondering why?

One thing that can seriously make you a hit on a first date is to go somewhere apart from your both of your normal haunts. This is to avoid running into anyone from either of your regular social groups. There is enough pressure placed on a date for either party to try and impress. Meeting friends could lead to some very uncomfortable feelings and inevitably your friends will make the entire night a joke. Not to mention you probably want to avoid the embarrassing stories that will ensue; when with friends you no longer have control of how your story is told.

Don’t make a big thing of it but decide early on how things will be paid for. Traditionally the man has always picked up the tab but in today’s society it is perfectly acceptable to split the bill, especially on firsties. Of course fellas, in many cases the best way to make the greatest first impression is to try and pick up the whole tab; the chivalry will be remembered.

Even if your first impression of your date isn’t so hot, avoid talking down to them or coming across the least bit deriding. Give them a chance because you never know and doing so will certainly make sure there is not a second date. One other thing to consider is that you probably travel in similar circles and you never know who they may share their experience with. This may seem obvious but making lascivious comments about the opposite sex or those around you will also make a bad impression on any date, first or otherwise. At the other end of the spectrum, if you are head over heels don’t let it show. For some this might be an “easier said than done” situation but remember being needy and controlling is a red flag on a first date.

Finally, being a good listener and conversationalist is very important. What’s that saying… practice makes prefect or something…all kidding aside, you can prepare for the date by rehearsing a few non-invasive open ended questions. Open ended questions are great because they, by design, get the other person to not only open up but to also feel special and at ease. Make the first date one of fun and levity. Going on a date that involves the two of you in action like mini-golfing or bowling is a good way to begin. It gives you ways to interact and fill silent moments but still allows for those “getting to know you” conversations.

Anout the Author: Rick Valence has a vast array of writing interests that include fiction, non-fiction and how-to guides. Rick works Monday through Friday as a digital camera repair specialist at C.R.I.S. Camera Services in Chandler, Arizona. He is also the webmaster of his company's camera repair blog.

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